Feels thread

Damn dude. I have the same problem, but I myself don't want to talk to anyone.

All are liberal pieces of shit or niggers. So I end up in a group of about 4 at all times and even they are just apolitical, because that's the best I can get.

But friends are pretty useless, you'll have more time to do important shit.

Don't hate loneliness, indulge in it, learn to love it. I would rather be alone for as much time as possible as I get to think over my thoughts, rather than struggling to make small talk and other bullshit to people I don't care about.

no matter how hard I try to understand the situation I don't get why people won't even look at me. All my life, in all the schools/colleges i went to, when there was a new kid in class we always made him feel welcome and made friends with them.

The only explanation I have is that I'm the only guy in college that isn't local, everyone else has friends already or did the same course as their friends so they at least got one person to talk with. Feels fucking awful sitting there having noone to talk to.

I wish I could but since I got there we were always forced to partake in group activities where people get to choose their groups and I was on my own, like a fucking loser. I bet everyone thinks there's something wrong with me and that's why noone wants to talk to me. I'm just new there, what can I do?

that's what I decided to do after many failed attempts at making friends. I said fuck it and sat there like I don't give a fuck, I really didn't, it pissed me off how my first day came out to be.

The thing is, when I'm around people I know, I'm pretty normal and likable, funny and all that shit but when I'm on my own, I tend to just dissapear into my own world if you get me? and if people try to talk to me it feels like kind of a shock, normally it does but this time around I didn't even get the opportunity, noone wants to even sit near me

sure you would, thanks anyway

Fuck'em mate. My uni classmates were dicks. Join some societies and clubs.

Oh oh yeah this one

youre prob just a shit person, i just sat whereever i wanted at college, and didnt give a shit about anyone or anything, fount new friends in like a week, had good times with those guys.. just fucking dont give a shit dude, stop your autism while you can

i learned that the best way to make friends is to let someone talk to you and stop beng a kissass friend hunter.
just let the chips fall to you

i feel u. i just transferred to a new school and i can't socialize for jack shit. i rarely speak at all throughout the day and nobody seems welcoming or nice or anything so i'm just alone.

Yup. If somebody thinks you're cool they'll talk to you.

I dunno, when I was in University I had a distinctive look that always found me friends. It was mostly hipsters and punk kids, but I always just showed up, hung out like I was secure with who I am, kinda look like I know what drugs are, and people just came.

By the drugs thing, I mean I didn't look like a square and knew how to party.

why would anyone want friends when you have the internet and video games

What college? I hope your day gets better.

Checked.

OP, deal with it honestly. If you give up that easy or are that fragile it was never gonna work anyway, was it?

Its college, nobody give a shit about making friends. What do you study btw ?

OP i know the feeling. Best thing to do is to go solo. Let people come to you.

the thing is, it's the first time ever that I encountered this problem where I just didn't seem to like anyone in my class, it's all the low life types that have the same haircuts and all they do is talk about women and sessions they've been to. I normally avoid this type of people but now it was all I got so I figure "guess that'll have to do" but didn't even work. Maybe it's because I actually have interests in life and a normal haircut and they all look alike and like the same shit.
The worst part is that I get a bus to college every day since I don't live too far to move out, its a 3 hours drive but it's better than living in the city and paying outrageous rent, the problem is, that between my classes i sometimes get up to 2 hour breaks, having noone to talk to or do anything with sucks + it's the first time I've been to a proper big city and it intimidates me, I grew up in the country side and I've no fucking clue how to even get around in a city. All I can do is go somewhere private and read a book for 2 hours but how long can I keep that up?

I was thinking about that, but I've this weird thing where if I don't talk to anyone for a few hours, my voice gets really quiet and feels like I'm out of breath when i talk, that makes me super self aware and I can't even speak properly so I just tend to stay quiet until asked to talk, being in a club would suck for me, I'm a quiet person normally, quiet speaker and being loud for me is effort. It got worse ever since i realized that I probably won't have any friends this time around.

>This made me feel like I'm alone
you're such a pussy

Saaaaaaaaaaaaaaame . But no distractions!!!

l wish l would sink through the ground

Op, this was the exact same thing that happened with me.
There were several groups, which were already there. One group was like the best and had seriously nice people. None was ready to accept anyone tho. I talked football, games, movies, TV series, books every fucking thing. But everyone would speak formally and turn round to their groups. This went on for one fucking year.

But you know what, gradually they understood how I was and now I'm in that group. We have so much fun and I guess I made some friends for life.

I thing you should just stick around and be yourself. You'll get there user.

i finally spoke up and made friends with a cute girl
if you're not attractive, then it might be harder
but i'd say the best way to start relations is when your are forced to partner with someone.
i could share the story of how it went well but dont know if anyone cares or not

You seem to be missing the point, I know how to make friends and I've done it multiple times before, I went to many schools since I moved a lot, then I went to 2 different colleges and made friends there, now that I'm in a new place I realized that there is pretty much 0 people I'd get along with, so I settled for the assholes i normally wouldn't even consider befriending and all I got was the "you're not one of us" treatment. I never went to a school/college where there was noone I could even consider a friend, that place is just weird, full of like minded, simple people who think they're 'too cool for school'. I don't know man, this is new to me is all.

I'm not a friend hunter, I just wanted to say hi to some class mates and without even getting to the 'befriending' part, I already got rejected so I just gave up on talking to anyone.

maybe you were at a better place than I am? where there were actually potential friend materials. Here, where I am there doesn't seem to be anyone I'm interested in, or anyone that would be interested in me so I gave up trying to talk to people.

i pretty much took your approach in a previous college I went to and made some great friends, still have them to this day, I just don't get why it didn't work this time.

I didn't give up because 'making friends is hard', I tried talking to people but they just treat me like I'm just some guy asking for directions, then they go back to their friends. Kinda like a "I already have friends, don't need anymore" attitude

can you read full sentences? I said that it made me feel like I'm on my own in college even though theres dozens of people around at all times.

I don't need friends, I'm ok on my own, it's just that I always took it as the last option and would prefer to have someone to talk to, even if it's to just make group assignments a little easier and not be awkward around people that'll see me for the next couple of years

Jokes on you, my dorm mate and the other two I hang with are Cred Forums as FUCK.

This is good. At college a guy advised me to join the ballroom dancing soc of all things. Sounded stupid, but your always partnered up with someone. Plus it turned out a lot of the grills joined cos they were shy about meeting guys. Win-win.
A martial art where you work with a partner is also good.

I guess if I have to I'll do it, it just sucks to be on your own in college, even if I just had one friend to talk to, at least the long breaks would go by quicker. Can't even go home because of the 3 hour fucking drive...

I did pretty much the same thing on orientation day, which pretty much was a tour of the college. I talked to her and we got along, she was new too and lived not too far from where I originally lived, seemed decent but then on the first proper day I didn't see her, i think she quit. Some people do that, if it's true then it's the second time it happened to me, where I met a girl on the first day and then she quit college, I still get to talk to the first one but she wasn't around in class.
Yea man, share the story

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