Hey guys. I have had several opportunities to lose my virginity.. Every time my penis goes soft on me...

Hey guys. I have had several opportunities to lose my virginity.. Every time my penis goes soft on me. Like I literally had a 10/10 in bed, didn't get it up. She said things like "maybe its the alcohol" or "is there something wrong with me". Tbh this is really frustrating. She even let me try again the night after and still it only got semi so no penetration. I even went down on her until my jaws started hurting man wtf do I do.

I masturbate all the time without any problems. I did try to furiously masturbate, but shit didn't work. Oh and the chick won't speak to me anymore. And this happens EVERY time. Any tips on how I can get a boner when I'm getting laid without viagra?

Stop fapping and no more porn. This happens when you watch too much porn and/or masturbate excessively.

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Wasted trips...

It seems like you have some self confidence issues my friend. Consider going to howlongismyschlong.com (ik, ik. Its legit though), you might find some comfort in statistics.

trips are nothing..

I wish this was the problem

This is easy, you are gay.

Stop lying to yourself and go fuck a dude.

It very well might be a confidence issue, you could even be afraid of your past failures which could make you less confident for next time. But yeah if its not dw about it then. If it is consider seeing a psychologist/therapist/counselor, if not consider seeing a doctor. Best of luck to you :^)

Happened to me all the time in strip clubs couldn't get hard until I actually felt something for a girl then was no problem

Do you have to wear a condor each time you tried to get laid? Or were you allowed to raw dog it?

We agreed on condom, then she said condoms are stupid and she wanted raw. This should have turned me on but.. idk there were a lot of distractions, every time i sorta got somewhere a roommate (we were staying at this hotel) would come in and shit

not actually shit

>every time i sorta got somewhere a roommate (we were staying at this hotel) would come in and shit

This is your problem fam. You need to be completely alone with the girl. Whether you know it or not the distractions are bugging you and you can't get aroused with this happening.

Girl are on pills in Norway

Marijuana is the new viagra.

Invest in a good quality escort to figure out what your problem is. My guess is that you have a specific fetish and can only get hard with that. An escort, the good quality ones that cost more, will help you figure this out.

I also like to wear large birds while participating in intercourse

Don't fap. Try and see if said girl - or another girl you feel like you could trust - would be willing to help you by regularly attempting to have sex with you. A large part of the problem is the nervousness ie. "if I can't get it up I'm gonna blow my chance at having sex." You just need to learn to be comfortable being naked and stuff around a woman, and that takes some time for a lot of guys.

Also the fact that you've become used to one certain kind of stimulation, like your hand or a fleshlight if you own one, your dick can get "confused" for lack of a better term about whether to get hard when it's experiencing a different sensation like a mouth or a pussy. Again it's just something that takes time and doesn't cause you to get nervous or anxious.

Unfortunately that might be easier said than done, lots of chicks aren't willing to do that for someone when they could be getting sex from someone else, or they take your inability to get hard as something that's their fault and decide against trying to have any more sex with you out of feeling guilt or shame themselves. Hopefully the girl who's already given you a couple of chances could give you some more if you explained the situation to her, but obviously I can see why explaining all that to someone might be difficult to do if you think she might do something like spread rumors about you, but if you think you could trust her to help you out I'd advise you to ask her for some help and hope for the best.

had the same problem for like three years.
you just get too worried about what going to happen, relaxing isnt halps because your mind is your worse enemy, what l did l just found a girl that weave been going out, we felt comfterble near each other, after week of hanging out every day, she gave me a blow job, and i was rock hard - one of the best orgasms ive ever had. after a week we fucked, lost my verginety after three years of soft dick, came
very fast... you dont want to be with 10/10 and to cum after one second, we fuck almost every day now she tells im very good at bed, i make her cum at least twice. you just must get some experience before you go out fucking different girls every week

It's just nerves lad.You should relax and think of it as no big deal. The more you focus on this, the harder it will become for you to get it

ait so I should focus on something I hate: relationships. I never want to commit, but I guess it's necessary in order for me to feel comfortable and gain experience. I can fake interest.

I feel your pain man.. I'm 37... and from the VERY FIRST time I ever had pussy (when I was 16) even up til now... I still have had this SAME exact going soft problem... It's overwhelmingly embarrassing. I really haven't figured out a cure for it. Like you? I can jack off with no problems. I think I'm just too nervous around women. Not sure what else it could be.

Have the exact same problem, also looking for advice. Wasted several opportunities to have sex in the last month, so fucking frustrating.

I don't really think you would need to commit to an actual relationship with the chick, it could just as easily be an FWB situation. Granted, it would probably be easier to find a chick who's willing to work with you if you are committing to each other relationship wise but it's not a necessary step you'd have to take. As long as she's willing to fuck you and not be judgemental you should be alright.

post dick

erect? just fapped

Maybe try fucking a guy see if it goes soft then too?

Had the same problem user. Your mind is your worst enemy with this one. Eventually succumbed and bought a Kamagra Jelly sachet. Worked a treat and helped me get over the mental block and I was fine after that.

I have already considered if I'm in denial. tbh gay sex disgusts me. Not a homophobe, but then again maybe I subconciously am.

try fucking large black men

Really? I read that taking these kinda things would just make it much harder for you to get erections on your own and that you would become dependant on it in order for you to get a boner.

Not OP here, but I had a gay friend of mine tell me YEARS ago that my problem was that I was so far in the closet that I would never come out. He seemed to think I was gay. Thing is, I'm not attracted to guys... but I seem to have issues keeping my dick hard for women, so who the fuck knows.

nigga u gay

This. had the same problem a few times with my girl. Then I stopped fapping for like 3 days and fucked her silly. Stop wanking it so much.

Nigger detected.

Well for me as it was 100% psychological. I just needed to get over the mental barrier. Took it once, got hard, had incredible sex and never looked back or used again. I guess you probably shouldnt use more than once and if that doesnt fix it then dont take the stuff as you could then become dependent on it.

I think you might be gay. Try a cock and see if that makes you hard.

not Op, but confirming this is legit

100% not gay. its all in the mind

thanks /b. I have come to the conclusion that I will not fap, I will manipulate some chick thats in love with me to help me with my problems, or maybe order some shit that gets my dick up on the internet. This whole thing is so stupid as I easily get boners just walking around or when I'm studying. Maybe I just need to fuck a girl so that I can stop being so unsure about myself.

good luck OP. Dont let your mind fuck with your johnson!

Don't be a shit, find a girl you like, kiss and cuddle with cloth on and slowly undress as you get horny and hot, don't think about shit and just enjoy the closeness, also make her feel good, nibble her ear and if soft wet girl moans don't make you hard I don't know what to say dude.

Those percentages shock me. Wtf

why not be a shit lol, this is all for self gain

yeah, me too (and I posted that). Check the site out.

Try to fap no more than twice a week and when u fap do it without porn (yes it possible)

I have had this problem every first time with a girl, and I don't usually go raw so condoms only made it harder (so, paradoxically, softer). Mouth to vagina + some light fapping does the trick though.

I know how your feeling you have that performance anxiety it happens DUDE try out viagra! At first it make take the pill to get it up but after a couple times you'll start to get comfortable you'll start to understand the structure of sex better , you'll be able to FEEL what your suppose to do, then eventually (like me) you'll be kissing and what not enjoying eajotherscompany then it'll just start getting hard it's self and penitrate her with ease , another thing to remember is that the girl needs to be turned on to or else she'll be to fuckin tight so try to work her up to. Fyi I told the girl that I first truly fucked about my problem before we even had sex and dude she was sympathetic , tell a girl before you actually see her naked body and she'll be more willing to help you becouse then she won't think it's her. And one more think stop jacking so much brohan shits over rated , take it from a guy who did it a lot. Peace and have fun.

yep this anons got you covered

thanks user