I need some advice

Pairs like yours tend to not break up at all, ever, so it wouldn't be unwise to marry her. I'd suggest graduating and finding job first though.

I remember being told a story as a young child, i will recite it as best i can.

Two stones lay upon the side of a mountain, overlooking the valley below. The one stone said to the other, "I wish i could see the valley on the other side of the mountain, it would be so much better than this field we see every day."

The other stone agreed, saying "Indeed, we have seen the valley on this side forever, and the pale yellow wheat grows old in my gaze"

The next day, a great wind arose and blew the stones over the mountain peak, but they were greatly dismayed to discover that what they had been wanting to see for so long, was nothing but a field of dirt. And so the stones sat, wishing to view the beautiful wheat again, until the end of time.

We are both currently attending the same university and marrying her and stuff would definitely be after college. But I sometimes feel like I am not getting the same college experience because I am with her. I just don't want to regret it and I don't want to make the wrong choice.

Bad op

stop pondering over the what ifs
you have a good thing going

Thank you for that story. It definitely makes me think.

I have only been with my current girlfriend, I am 29 and I lost my virginity to her at 26. She is in love with me but I don't know what love is. She is the least crazy girl I have ever met. But damn I want to blow my load in some other girls

The grass is always greener on the other side, until you have to mow the lawn

Marry her.

Grass might been greener but on the other hand - shit might be browner.

Op your a fag.

Don't fuck it up!

You dump her, you realize she was the one and you go down a dark path in your love life trying to get anything similar to it until you end up overdosed on drugs with a hooker that looks vaguely like her trying to recreate the feelings you once had

You stay with her, you start to resent her for being the one girl you ever knew until you finally snap one day and cheat on her, where she catches you and takes her own life in despair

You don't win.

I really don't know what to do. Have any of you guys ever been in this situation and have regretted it?

And if you'd dump her you wouldn't get the same experience as you get with her. It's circular logic and leads nowhere.

Listen man, I'm going to be honest.

You rarely see couples like yours. Statistically they have negligible divorce rates, raise happy, successful kids and end up being extremely pleased with their marriage as the time goes by.

You may not be that case but it's extremely likely that you are. And you want to throw it all away because you want to experience few years(at best) of hedonism and then what?

Grass will always seem greener on the other side of the fence. You will dump her and then what? Fuck few sluts and start to miss a woman you've been 5 years with.

>cleans
>cooks
marry her Cred Forumsro

She also does my laundry and my parents love her. My friends do too.

Been in the same boat. Relationship for 6 years. Sex got boring. I moved on and travelled, found a hotter better asian girl. Best decision of my life

Don't break up with her.

I broke up with my first real relationship who I met at University. She was perfect for me, couldn't have loved me more. Cooked, cleaned. She had a couple of anxiety issues but nothing I couldn't handle.

I broke up with her to see what else was out there. It was the stupidest decision I've ever made.

This was over 2.5 years ago. She no longer returns my messages. I dream about her all the time. Even last night.

take some advice from a married oldfag OP:

you'll always wonder if the grass is greener on the other side. nothing's gonna change that.
you'll never be 100% ready to commit.

if she is the way you describe her in your post then this is about the best thing you can get from a woman.

also: since she is pushing for the next step. be aware that she WILL dump you at some point in the future.

women always seek stability and security. doesn't matter if she admits that or not.

godspeed young faggot.

She's not really pushing me, she just wants to know that she's not wasting her time with me as she always talks about the future and I do not for the reason that I'm not sure what the future holds but it hurts her.

Trust me. It isn't always greener.
I left my highschool sweetheart and ended up with a more controlling, slightly uglier girlfriend with a similar personality to the one I left.

Sometimes you have it right the first time OP

Agree With user
I've done the same choice With my first gf, and I still regret (3 years here).
If you are fine with her, stay with her.

Life is long , you have the time to discover news experiences.

Also, you can speak with her, maybe she will let you try with an another girl if you ask her.

OP, you've got 17+ people on a random messege board who you don't know all telling you the same thing. I'm 24, have been with the love of my life for 7 years. Currently engaged. Like we are all saying, there are somethings worth skipping in order to obtain greater things I.E. missing out on 4 years of partying and pussy so that you can have 40 years with someone who will always be there for you. Think hard before you let her go OP, trust me, it's pretty fucking hard to find another one. You'll compare them ALL to her (she's all you know) and they'll never stack up. Good luck.

TL;DR - buy a goddamn ring already, most women who are really in it for the love don't care what it is. Get it done OP

This is too relevant. When you get older you'll realize that you should have held on to her because all the good girls have been held on to.

Honestly. I wish I'd had the foresight to come to Cred Forums before I left my ex

I have the same problem and I've been thinking about it a lot lately and it's really fucking with my head.

I guess it's not exactly the same as I've fucked other girls. Just the wondering if she's the right person or not.

Fix yourself, you cunt. Make the changes to yourself that you need to make in order to be worthy of her, because she sounds like the perfect fucking girl and if you dont put effort into it shes going to leave and you will be lost as a fucking puppy.

We lost our virginities to eachother. She always says what's the point of failing with other people when we already have what everyone else is looking for?

you haven't mentioned the important stuff.

such as do you share similar values (what do you prioritize as important).

borrowing from Nietzsche, i will only ask two questions:

can you connect with her on an intellectual level? look at your conversational engagement. it will be the only thing that will last in a long-term marriage.

secondly, do you do new things with her? novelty can take many forms, and can substitute/satisfy your curiosity for other girls.

The grass is NOT greener on the other side, trust me. Dont go, OP, you will regret it bitterly.

Yes, we can have intellectual conversations. She's very smart and sometimes we disagree but it's nothing significant and yes, we do new things together. We've vacationed together a few times and she's a very sexual person and is willing to try absolutely anything anywhere but what if what she gives me sexually isn't enough? Like I just worry that only being with one person my entire life isn't enough for me

You have the one. This is as good as you're ever going to get. There is no one better. Keep it and hold onto it with a death grip.

Excellent point

She also didn't go to her dream school because I didn't get accepted and she came to the same university as me to be with me, but I tell her that I'm not obligated to be with her forever because she did that for me.

>same college experience

You mean like what you see in the movies and in porn?

Grow up OP. Don't lose the one good thing you have going for you.

If your honest about her fulfilling your needs then consider this:
How will you feel if someone else was boning her?
Close your eyes and imagine somone else kissing her while she is wrapping her legs around him.

How do you feel about that?
Take it from an user. The chances of grass being greener is so incredibly small its rediculous.

You dbag, she made that choice to stay with you, she set aside her own ambitions for the sake of your relationship. Fucking right you owe her. Stop generalizing about it and go buy some flowers, take her to a movie and then wine and dine her. Suck her pie till she cries. She deserves it. You? Hardly for a statement like that

you´re a faggot.

sex, from anyone, gets stale, whereas, conversation always has the possibility to develop.

probably at a deeper level, you're just not a monogamous person. (biologically, we may be programmed this way).

in any case, the grass is not always greener on the other side, but it doesn't matter, because you're you, can cannot fight (intellectually/rationally subsume) your nature (curiosity).

Agreed, this guy has gold at his fingertips and he is willing to trade it for brass. You want the illusion of gold but that's not what you're going to get. Get a grip OP, Cred Forums doesn't beat dead horses over shit like this

When I cut my ex loose she ended up dating 4-5 different guys, fucking all of them.

I ended up dating none, and never having sex. She won't take me back and is currently in a abusive relationship.

If it's not broken, don't try to fix it OP.

In the dark, all pussy tastes the same.
You are risking losing an A+ chick for the sake of looking at some unfamiliar cellulite while you potentially lose one of the few true hearted women left in the world.

You don't deserve her.

Grass is greener on the other side! There is more shit in it you fucking idiot. Go post in advice fagot!

This, I had the same dilemma, was fucked before and am fucked now that we broke up
feelsbadman

Inb4 OP becomes roast session

She's a Woman and don't reserve Respect. Don't be a Sucker - Cheat! But make sure that you don't use your real Name.

She passes the 5 yeses, she cooks, she cleans, sence of humor, she is loyal, and PUSSY, what the hell give it a bash,

Dont break a good girls heart, look at this from her perspective
If youre having second thoughts now you dont deserve her. Be grateful and hold onto her
>inb4 white knight

deserve*

>The next day, a great wind arose and blew the stones over the mountain peak ... until the end of time.

If a great wind can arise once it can arise twice maybe thrice again. Shenanigans.

Great story - don't wish for things as you may be disappointed.

OP stay with your GF marry her but avoid children for as long as possible.. You can always screw around behind her back.

to anyone who things this is tl;dr
He dun goofed

I would never cheat on her regardless of what I'm feeling right now

You are in the sweet spot. keep it and dont throw away what you have. I envy you.

I wouldn't settle down with the first girl you met Jesus, there's literally millions out there, shop around a bit.

If you are considering it and coming to Cred Forums to get inspiration, you are gonna' cheat anyway you asshole. Just stop lying to yourself and cheat or leave. I would kill to be in your situation and I AM DONE with having ANYONE in my life. You have it good but that will never be enough for you. Just fuck it up already so you can tell young people in your life when you are old and miserable about how you fucked up a great thing.

This is a great position to be in OP

Your general unwillingness to commit and creeping lack of care will keep your girl on the edge of her seat, if she's crying in your arms over this it keeps her fear of you leaving high and she's probably never been more into you than she is right now. Women are fucked up, but its true, this probably helps the relationship so long as you don't go too far into it and drive her out.

Just keep lightly doing this, stay in your good relationship. If you really need to fuck around later, do it on the down-low with professional girls who won't blab and when your relationship starts to get more stale/she gets complacent. You can have the best of both worlds and it'll likely help keep your relationship alive too.

t. fedora

Im mildly surprised no one requested a pic of her.

Mind if we see one, OP?

Not that it matters to this situation

i need to hit that ass up my bois

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Either troll or immature

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you are from germany

grass is not that green in the other side. If you keep treating her badly she´ll leave and you´ll regret it very much.

White knight detected

This is me

No it is not bro, women are different but all pussy is the same!
Your woman is a great example and you will not find one like her in a hurry.
All you will do is trade her for a dickhead and regret it for the rest of your life.
Like I say, all pussy is the same but it's attached to a soul sucking cunt 99% of the time.
I envy you and your success in this field DONT FUCK IT UP.
If you pay attention to a single thing on this shitty site let it be this.
If you got a keeper then fucking keep it.

You fat Hawaiin, keep her u ugly ass nigger and keep the girl. Fuck

English is obviously not your first language.

Listen to me, OP. I've been through this shit before and it doesn't end well. I started dating a girl when I was 16 for four years and she was exactly like yours. We were perfect for each other. Connected more deeply than anybody I've ever met. I could make her laugh like no other. We lost our virginity to each other, lived together for two years after high school. She was 100% committed to me, and I was a piece of shit and wanted to see what else was out there, so I told her and ended up breaking things off. I've never seen a human being cry harder than she cried that night, but I packed up my things and left. Long story short, I ended up fucking about a dozen women, was in and out of relationships five times until I realized all I was doing was looking for women that reminded me of her. I'm 27 now, and to this day, if I could go back in time and just grab myself by the collar and punch some fucking sense into my 20 year old self, I would. Nobody else compares to your first. I still think about her every day, and I dream about her. Stay with her, you dumb piece of shit, because the minute you leave, she'll find somebody else who actually deserves her and you'll end up bitter and angry. I wish I could physically hit you, because you remind me of me.

This OP. Had the same and thought the same. Acted on impulses. Ruined me. Will regret rest of my life I lost the best thing that ever happened to me. If you find a keeper keep it.

I know how you feel OP. Currently a senior in college, we're about 2.5 years in.

It sucks because you know you love her but the monotony is stifling. It's like having a male best friend - they may be your best friend for life but it just feels weird only being able to hang out with one person forever.

I haven't found a solution yet. If you're actually a friendly extrovert, you can flirt hard with other girls and believably pass it off as just being friendly, that can help.

Shes also mad cute, OP.

Dont know of this bit will help you, but it did make me think. When I expressed my concern to a coworker about marriage, and the commitment involved, he told me that there are people that go their whole lives not knowing what they want. And you can spend your whole life looking for it and never find it.

What you do know, however, is what you dont want. Is there anything about this girl that you absolutely find insufferable? If not, the we both know that the problem lies in you.

You gotta figure yourself out.

Also, lets see her titties. They look fucking amazing in these pics.

I thought I was bad. Im so fuxking stupid I cant help but fall for gold diggers, fakes, whores, older ass women that have too many miles on them that are looking for some fucking loser like me to support them and/or any mix of the above.

The girl Im nuts for is some fake ass bitch whos cheating on her man of several years with a significantly younger guy. That poor sod gets cucked and hes still with her whole she goes off god knows where, comfy as fuck.

I know she wouldnt be good for me, but my stupid ass cant help but to be nuts for her.

You, on the other hand, have a beautiful, honest girl that actually gives a shit and a half about you. There is no way anyone here can convince you that you have too good a thing going on to risk. That is a mistake you have to make for yourself and hopefully learn from.

Post her glorious tits though, would you kindly?

Also, if she really loves you, maybe you can try and convinve her into an open relationship or even swinging. Just dont be upset when she wises up and she realizes that she can do better.

Again, lets see her tits

Bump

You're fucking up OP, be happy with what you got, sounds like an awesome girl

Keep her
You probably don't deserve her anyway if you're asking here...

So keep her if you still can

LISTEN TO THIS MAN

Fuck user, I'm in a relationship right now where the girl has threatened all sorts if I break it off

She's got a personality disorder, and "real" PTSD from sexual abuse

I'm about to end it though, scared shitless. I moved out of our apartment a while back and I just moved in with a good friend surreptitiously... Hoping for the best, I'm scared and i actually love her but I also hate her and I'm scared of being scapegoated with some lies etc..

This is not the norm, don't listen to him OP

Pussy is pussy, it gets old eventually

Dont be in a rush to marry, but dont be in a rush to cheat or breakup either. In fact, by comparison, it seems like that girl of yours will look other relationships shitty.

A wise man once said, marry only if she loves you more than you love her

This

Fuck off underageb&

Dude the whole point of that "the grass is always greener" saying is that thinking something different you don't have would be better is retarded

If you break up, literally best case scenario is you find someone else who makes you the same happy

The wayyyy more likely scenario is, you spend your entire life looking for someone who made you happy

A lot of people have been in exactly your position, and not a single one of the people that ended that relationship has ever not spent their entire life regretting it

BRO

BRO... BRO

DON'T BE A FUCKING IDIOT

You're willing to give up somebody who truly cares about you, treats you well and loves you for "the college experience"?

I'm 25. I'll tell you what "the college experience" is: drinking yourself stupid, wasting all your time and money, hollow meaningless sex with vapid sluts, and a general lack of anything remotely intellectually or spiritually fulfilling.

BRO, you have what 99% of all the college aged people in America don't have. You have a meaningful relationship with a good grill. THE GRASS IS NOT GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE YOU FUCKWIT. YOU'RE GOING TO BREAK THIS GIRL'S HEART, SPEND A YEAR RUNNING THROUGH A FEW STUPID WHORES, THEN WHEN YOU FINALLY REALIZE HOW STUPID YOU ARE SHE WILL HAVE ALREADY MOVED ON AND WILL BE COOKING FOR AND GETTING PLOWED BY ANOTHER MAN.

Don't be a fuckwit you fucking faggot.

commit to her you dumbass piece of shit retarded fuck cockbite. I would kill for someone like that to be with me, and yet still forever single

Don't do it OP, that is just last trying to come your way. If you are trying to fuck someone else then just get a hooker. For one, they won't be causing you problems and well they are hot too. Anyhow, the girl sounds great just put a ring on her mate.

dont leave her you idiot

FUCKING STICK TO HER YOU BABY

I'm in the same situation as OP. Been with a girl for 3 years and am in that comfortable love at the moment. we split for over a month and i fucked two other girls and they were no where near as good as my gf. the only problem is she lacks a bit of intelligence and im smarter than the average person. shes fine to handle at the moment but if we get married im not too sure if i could put up with someone lacking intelligence for 40+ years. wat do Cred Forumsro's?