So Cred Forums, how would you deal with a partner having an anxiety disorder...

>ITT: adult baby problems

Man the fuck up and Ditch The Bitch - cunts like that express their insecurities by fucking people behind your back and are a lifelong waste of skin, stop being a white knight, grow a spine and find a woman with blood in her veins.

How the hell did you meet her?

I understand man. Its a shame when people think that they are being rude, I'm always trying to convince people she isn't rude or judgy, just doesn't communicate well with people.

Three choices:
Fix her and see her blossom into a social person that will cheat on you with her newfound social confidence.
Ditch her and don't have any pussy.
Suck it up and keep her the way she is

Put it in her ass

It's hard sometimes like I'll try and hang out with my friend and his his gf sometimes and I'll bring my girl and she and my friends girl get along but my girl just will he so quite the whole time say something when she feels comfortable I feel like she just has bad anxiety because when she is really high its not bad but at the same time it will be but i still love her definitely out weighs the bad she is sweet and loving

Mutual friend hung out with her a lot around me, took me ages to realise she wasnt a judgy cunt. Slowly became friends after like a year and I asked her out a while after that.

Right exactly for the longest time my family thought she was stuck up but really she just has a hard time speaking without letting out a nervous laugh or something

>I dont bring people round to my house anymore cause she hides in the room when people show up

bruh she needs to talk to a doctor/therapist. hiding in her room when guests are over? can't pay for stuff? can't file papers w government?

that's pretty bad dude. she needs therapy and/or meds, or needs to take it upon herself to take small steps towards getting better.

does she work btw?

Option one is most probable.

Yeah man. Counselling, doctor, all that shit. She definitely doesn't work though, I couldn't imagine her working until all this is sorted out.

Well, user, first you need to understand that also you're a human too... A human with needs -someone who didnt ask for it.
I know you love your gf, even tho to the point where you're actually taking care of her disorder BUT, again, you still a human being... You're not responsable for those mental farts she might have. In fact, thats the beauty of it, that is just a state of mind. So it can be fixed.
So go ahead and try to fix those problems. Now, if you cant and if she doesnt put in to work in order to have a better relationship and even better! being able to achieve a better life, then, well... She still just a person...
Every single day people commit suicide or get fucked by life because of their poor life choices... If she doesnt want to get a better life and make progress, overcome her problem, then dump her. Is not worth it for you, for your mental health and hapiness. Remember, you're not responsable for that and plus, you cant do actually much for her unless she wants to fix that... inb4 "people with disorders cant fix themselves because blablabla" thats bullshit! -partially- i mean, as long as she doesnt see fucking elephants with rainbows, shes ok. She can do it. Anyway, good luck man, and do not waste time on negativity or unhappiness because thats a luxury.

As her boyfriend and the male figure in the relationship you are the caregiver, you're a complete beta if you expect anything more from a female

Not OP, but
>So go ahead and try to fix those problems
>nb4 "people with disorders cant fix themselves because blablabla" thats bullshit!
How can anyone fix these kind of problem themselves?

Op.
She's getting help from counsellor s and doctors, have seen slight improvements but the slightest thing can set her on a backwards. Just hoping it will get better before I want kids.

A fucking beta manlet would cut his losses and ditch.

>Uh... have you ever heard about logic or therapy?
i've been diagnosed with depression before, and one thing i can tell you is that you may feel like shit but yet doesnt mean that you're not conscious about your problem, the solutions and the consecuences of feeding that shit. Thats because our brain is not a "all in one shit up emotions-logic alike" but have the capacity to separate the reason from the emotions or if you cant do it much yourself, then you go out and see a doctor.

Logic for curing depression?
Are you a special kind of idiot?

Imagine having to care for both her AND a kid. Do you really think she could handle the responsibility.

Dude. Thats a hook up chick not a date chick. PLS live by the Hot/Crazy matrix.

Not sure man. She seems like shed be a good mother, but at the same time she wouldn't leave the house if nothing changes now. Fuck putting a kid through that too, vicious cycle and all that.

>caring what other people think
>caring about socializing
>caring about the money jew
who the fuck cares op, a real relationship shouldnt look the outside people to verify it, maybe stop putting so much pressure on her, just let her be.. if she likes being quiet just let her be quiet, if she likes being poor let her be poor.. if this shit bothers you then leave, if you could live without her then do it faggot.

Started dating this girl before HIMYM aired.

lol people have different social personalities op.. stop being a faggot, this is like the perfect girl
>hot
>doesnt talk alot
>seems like a good mother

fuck you

Haa, she doesn't like it man. She gets upset all the time cause she can't do things others can. Its not like its how she wants to be, Anxiety disorders aren't a "just how I like it" kinda thing.

Why the fuck aren't you married then? That show started, had 9 seasons, and ended two years ago.

Seriously, OP, what the hell are you looking for in this relationship? It sounds like you're on Cred Forums looking for people to tell you to bail. Why do you want to bail? Why didn't you bail ten fucking years ago?

anxiety is caused by pressure.. and its broken with good habits
>find two couples she is very comfortable with
>hang with them a lot, so much she becomes comfortable and opens up
>this can take a while, like 12-18months long
>dont put any pressure on her, just ignore her most of the time
>let her get into her own

>Hot.
Yes.
>Doesn't talk a lot.
Other people she doesn't talk to. She loves to chat with me and so do i.
>Seems like a good mother.
Handling a kid for an hour compared to 24/7 for 18 years is something different.

Uh.. buddy... its pretty simple, you know?
>You have depression
>If you dont change you'll get fucked
>You'll get melancholy, you'll commit suicide
>If you commit suicide, thats all
>You want that? No?
>Then seek help
>You cant?
>Then fucking die
>You dont want to?
>Then fucking seek help
>What is it, now you want to die?
>Then kill yourself, you're not important, you're not relevant, you're just one person.
>You're depressed, not half-cutted brain -ergo you still have the ability to think with logic.
The problem is that pussies like you think that you need someone to help you out, when in reality, the only one who can really help you is YOURSELF and if you're not strong enough to do that, then you might as well kill yourself because you really dont deserve a place and opportunity in this world.

Just FYI, depression is a treatable, curable illness like any other.

Yeah, you can "power through it" by willpower alone, just like pneumonia, but doctors are there to make your life easier in exchange for me. They're better at it than you.

So you ARE a rare kind of idiot, one that you don't see often.
>pussies like you
Not depressed, but dealing with a depressed relative. There was no way of helping that person with logic, no matter how hard you try. They just can't see things as they are, so even if it's perfectly logic to say:
>if you wanna get better get help
It's not at all easy for them.

Unbelievable.

I'm in a similar situation myself except my finance has anxiety about everything due to her troubled past experiences. In order to get past it I gave an ultimatum to go seek help from a therapist. It's been about a year and a half and the results are starting to really pay off. She is growing at her own pace and is making great strides. I am not saying I fixed her but I put her on the path of fixing herself. So she will be better for our relationship. In the same breath I've done the same thing with a therapist and have grown leaps and bounds myself. Trust me. If you want this to work. You have to work for it. It will pay off. Keep in their op

Op, me and my gf broke up for the same reasons, except it was the opposite haha
>im like 9.5/10
>shes a 8, though looks like a 10 some days
>dating for 9 years
>i work jobs, but cant hold them down, so she pays for a lot of shit
>i dont like going out, shes very social
>it gets awkward sometimes when I go out with her, ill just follow her like a dog
>mainly because i can only flirt with girls and hate talking to other guys
>so i choose to keep my mouth shut

yea she left me, so i guess thats your option.. ps its not like i dont have friends, actually got a shitton, i just hate going out with her, shes the type of girl to run around and talk with random people at a party leaving me alone when i didnt know anyone.. and im intimidating, so not many people could chat with me..
iunno seems for the better, time will tell.. this was recent too, so im still in the breakup mood

lol youre a fucking bitch..
>you would rather have a social chick rather than wife material you get along with and can spend the rest of your life with
and you said she was good mother material, this means for a lifetime, not an hour.. you seem a little retarded.. i hope she leaves you for someone else, and i hope you get that social chick, and all the other bagage that come with her.. its always greener on the other side

Will do man. Shot for the advice, I plan to stick in there cause their has been progress, was just looking for ways to cope until then. The therapist work for you any well?

Dude, you're just trying to justify weak people...
> ...dealing with a depressed relative. There was no way of helping that person with logic...
NO SHIT! SHERLOCK!
Like i said, even if you have depression, is not like you have fucking schizophrenia, when you get schizophrenia then you can not by any means help yourself because you need to see a doctor and stuff, but depression can be handle by the person whos suffering that shit... same with any other mentall illnes that doesnt affect at all your perception. As long as you dont see fucking white elephants, then its ok, you can do it.
Grow a pair son...

Alcohol helps mine socialize

>depression can be handle by the person whos suffering that shit
You still haven't explained how, despite my requests for you to do so, faggot.
Now I'm really curious. According to Dr.user, what should a depressed person do to fix himself? Is it just deciding to go to a doctor? FFS.

Mine too man. But the docs all said that its got the reverse effect long term. Makes them regret and over analyze more when they sober up.

And her hands

>guy feels superior to his touched gf because has some wageshit job while her disability pays everything not entertainment

You're a puss OP

This. Find people who:
1.Advance your life
2.Want to be around
3.Don't fuck shit up

Bullshit you fuck knob. Then those couples have to deal with your crap when she gets 'comfortable' with them. Once they're friends she will lash out at them just like all other non strangers. OP you fix your chicks shit before forcing her on others.

She should get used to being outside more often.

She doesn't get disability, my wageshit job is enough. Asking the government for help is for poor people.

She loves being outside, loves animals and going for walks. Just the constant fear of seeing people scares her shirtless. Otherwise, outside is fine.

Scared "shirtless"? Do you enjoy that or something?

Bro. Shitless, you know what I mean haha. Fucking autocorrect.

First if you think that you may have depression, you go out and see a doctor.
You need to get diagnosed
and why first of all, diagnosed? So you dont contribute to the bunch of faggots who do not have depression but low selfsteem and makes people with depression look bad.
So, once you got diagnosed you have 2 options
therapy or the you patch yourself up route.
If you decide to patch yourself up, then you need to gather tons and tons of information about your illness, but you have to do it quickly while you still can, before you enter in to the "24hours bed zone". Then, once you understand how depression works, you can start fighting the illness. Either emotionally forced, chemicaly forced (by consuming food, doing activities, or even meds, to force your body -brain- to release drugs that can help your mental state) the point is that, once you know whats happening in your brain and you're selfaware of that situation, then you can start helping yourself before it gets too shitty, to dark, and you can not handle it... but people are weak... i do not blame them for having depression for example, i blame them for having the tools and resources to help themselves but not doing it... ignorance by choice is the biggest mistake people do...

Nice trips, but bullshit.

Thanks man. But as long as I'm not homeless, I dont need government help.

If you were paying everything you would already be putting forth more effort to maintain your own personal shitshow than the internet could provide you advice for.

But since you're hete , these are your options:
-find various ways to "fuck it"
-move on with your own life, help or no.

but... but...
ITS FREE!

wait have you been? how was it?

It wouldn't really be help if you had to pay for it.

How long yiu've been with her? Is just a couple months, dump her. It's harsh but life getting sucked outta you is worse.
If it's been longer, talk, try to get her to a psychologist or even psychiatrist. If it doesn't help after half a year, dump her.

Sometimes you gotta be egocentric to get somewhere in life, even though that's sometimes hard.

OP never said she was lashing out on them faggot. OP is trying to help his gf get over anxiety, get over yourself.

youre right man i read so much about it and i understand how it works but at the moment im in therapy and it is very good to have a person which you can tell all your problem and that give you "tools" ,personally for you ,to get out of that shit.

They don't exist yet, ultra faggot. OPs girl has anger issuez. You suck.

Play on her paranoia. Make her always think she's replacable. Make her feel inadequate to the point where her entire life revolves around you, and she is depedent on you to exist. Keep her away from people that would make her think that having anxiety isn't a bad thing.

Yes it can be cured, albeit being very hard to do so.

And I mean really fucking hard—so hard that rarely anyone ever manages to do it. You would need the brain to think of viable solutions and the will to stick to making efforts and just keep doing it, for the longest time possible. Critical thinking is a must, and you have to consistently keep making conscious effort.
It's sort of like cancer in the sense that you'll still have to fight it for the rest of the time you can remember about your current self, except it gets easier to fight it each time, and though it will definitely come back in episodes, the frequency of those episodes and the severity will decrease over time.

Regardless, it's a constant battle where giving up is not an option if you have any intent to win. But yes, it's possible to win.

She needs to see a Psychiatrist user. Sounds like her crippling anxiety is actually leading her to believe she has no sense of self worth/esteem.
It also sounds like she may have ADHD if she can't think for herself, and if you constantly need to be the brains of the outfit.
Does she have a job? Regardless, get her to a Psychiatrist so she can get the proper medication she needs, like benzos

It's just question of whether you care for her enough to sacrifice your personal convenience and social life. Ask your heart, user.

Is the OP still here? When was the last time you talked to her? Why does she feel shut out and cut off from you?

Op here. I talk to her daily, and she's not cut off from me, just has social anxiety and doesn't talk to others man.

without therapy it will getting worse ,believe me im suffering for 12 years from this shit

How did she meet you in the first place, and why does she feel so comfortable with you and so fearful of others? Did you hypnotize or manipulate her to do so?

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> im suffering for 12 years from this shit
12 years with social anxiety?
At least 5 years knowin your problem? (if its more, you're seriously fucked)
and you still suffering from it?
geezz man... what a waste of grey matter...

When we first met, it took me like a year to talk to her properly, and I have a big personality, very tentative. I guess she latched on cause its something she can hide behind.

Who is tentative? Just your gf or are you a little bit like that, too?

Put her down like George did to Lenny.

it was not that bad at all ...the first years i was just nervous in social situations.And its not so that i have been just inside my house for 12 years i had friends ,gf and were,partying all the time and had a normal life .Just that uncomfy feeling in social situations was getting bigger constantly.I did not know that it was social anxiety for a long time.But then i started reading about the symptoms and slightly realised that i couldnt solve it alone anymore i started to ask for help.

She is, my bad. I think it appealed to her that she could use me for protection and as a barrier to other people, especially cause I am outgoing.

make pornos with her, abuse her to get sick moneys with the porn if shes a 9/10

How does she feel protected by you? She may not seem happy about life due to her anxiety. What's the point of you sticking with her? Do you love her?

Bumping for

Of course man.

Drop her and date a normal girl.

I'm in the same boat. Stressful as hell but it's nice to know i don't have to try particularly hard in the relationship because shes too anxious to meet other people. So i basically just treat her niceish and make her clean my flat and do all the household chores. EZ PZY

this guy said it best

Get out. I was in your same situation for over 8 years. It will end badly, trust me.

I can't help but feel that this OP is trolling.

Maybe you should talk to her about it? She sounds scizotypal- scared of crowds and with bad anxiety. I know because I probably have the same thing.

Your brain just clouds up. You don't know how to react in situations with people you aren't familiar with. It's like autism on a lesser scale.

Love her, OP. She probably has had a hard life with very little support.

My woman understands my problems. I'm normally the one who shimmies away from phone calls and answering the door. I'm just wired that way.

Maybe

What problems does she have with authority?