I need your help deciding something Cred Forums

I need your help deciding something Cred Forums


I'm in a relationship of 4 years, the girl is nice, she's got a shitty attitude at times but she's ok, we're doing ok.
Except for when it comes to sex, we're doing it less and less, we've had a few fights because of it, she went dry a couple of times during sex and even though I've asked her multiple times about improvement she never does the things I ask for, for example I asked her to spend more time on foreplay (on me), I've asked her to arch her back during doggystyle, just little details like that.

She loves having sex, she initiates, she shows interest, but it's honestly just becoming a bit of a chore because of the fights we had about it, so I finally grabbed her, sat her down and told her "Ok we're talking about this and we're figuring it out, tell me, tell me everything, tell me exactly what it is that's going wrong, tell me what your fantasies are, the ones you could never tell anyone, share them with me"

She paused and jokingly said "What if I said my fantasy is a gangbang?"
I joked back and said "Well only if you let me murder and hide all the bodies afterward, heh..heheh"

So she went back to normal mode and said shit like "Let's do more positions and let's bla bla"


I can't get the gangbang bit out of my head, it seems like a genuine thing she's fixated on, and I don't know if I can continue in a relationship with someone who thinks I'm not enough, who would rather fuck 5 other men than me. I'm not a cuck, I'm not into cucking, nor do I want any advice on anything related to that.

WHat I want is to know from your opinions, is this relationship over? I feel it is, I feel like I can't go on with the idea that she's into gangbangs and I feel like I should just cut my losses early (before kids and marriage) and just exit.

I don't want to be with someone who wants gangbangs, who dries up during sex with me.
What would you do?

Sincerely asking for opinions here

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Not good. I'd start looking elsewhere

Use lube if she's going dry

You get what I mean?
It's just the idea that she's into gangbangs, and that she's sharing this 4 years in is scaring the fuck out of me.

Lube "offends her" because she says it means she's not good enough.
She gets wet most times, i'll give her that, but not super wet, my exes used to get soaking and my current basicalyl gets... "sloppy wet" for about 10 minutes then loses it, sometimes in less time. And the moaning stopped completely.

bumping my own shitty thread

Bumping

I would just be straight with her and talk about her true feelings on being gangbanged. No use dwelling on something you arent sure about. Its sounding to me like you are a little controlling to be honest.

Be a fucking man OP and run a train on your girlfriend. If you aren't interested in the relationship after, end it and move on because you have to anyway.

dude, performance isn't just for men. If she gets dry it doesn't mean she's not into it, it's physiological. Just like you have to keep it up, she has to keep lubricated. It's cool that you both have needs, but your commentary clearly suggests she puts all that on you

I think her commentary suggests boredom.

She's the kind of person that would say "Omg don't worry I love you, it's just a fantasy nothing more!"

She's not very sincere sometimes :/

So you want me to arrange a gangbang, and then leave her? what?'

She does, immensely, her legs get "tired" if she rides or does doggy, she gaggs a lot during deepthroating which ruins it for her, she gets cramps if I take too long.

I'm starting to get headaches man.

This might be the case.

To the user that said I'm controlling, I have 100xfantasies about sex, but I don't go soft on her during sex, I eat her out plenty and I fuck her with everything I have. I make love often, and I fuck often.
I don't know what more I can throw her way if she's just getting bored and wants an exciting gangbang because of her own idiotic porn habits.

I want to end it, but I also wish I could get her to "quit" her fantasy, though unrealistic because I don't think she's gonna get better.

Maybe I could sit her down again and be like "ok, we have a sex problem, I want to fix it, I want us to enjoy sex, you need to quit porn and your gangbang fixation, and if things don't work then they just don't work"
Or
Go directly to "I need to break up, because your fixation on gangbang fantasy is influencing your attitude during sex, and it's making me feel like you're not interested anymore"

Either way, she's the kind of person that would deny and be like "noooooooo I enjoy, don't worry, gangbang is just a fantasy" bla bla, and she'd just end up masturbating when I'm at work to gangbang videos.

fffffffffuck

You sound like an old boomer with a love life growing stale
You don’t have to fuck all the time
And when you do, lube it the fuck up idiot

Where did the porn thing come into play, is she watching gangbang porn?

I'm 32, she's 26, neither of us are old. at least not in your sense.
We don't have to fuck all the time, but when we do it's kinda hurtful that she goes dry man.
She refuses lube, you still don't get it.

She admitted to watching gangbang porn early on in the relationship and then "quitting it" and now recently she said she watched a couple of times.

She basically isn't satisfied, let's just come out and put that out in the open and I don't think she ever will be. :/

Get a girl on the side, live selfishly because your current girl is leaving soon.

Well listen, its sounds to me like this relationship is built around sex especially since you are considering ending it when the sex is starting to get sub par. I think you just need to ask yourself if you even really like her that much or if its just the thought of not having an easy access vagina thats keeping you with her.

00 never lies

I'm loyal, I never ever cheat. Not once, and I have had plenty of chances, I actually take pride in the thought that I don't.

Thank you for writing that post, I love her, I care about her, and I don't want to end it with her. But honestly I don't want to spend the rest of my life with someone who is miserable with me sexually, who rubs her self on the side. An unsatisfied woman leads to complications, it leads to cheating and general idiocy which I KNOW she is prone to. She is exactly the kind of person who would "Cheat by mistake" because of a fight or a drunk situation and for the last 4 years she is focused on me, now recently she's getting bored and it shows during sex, THIS is why I want to end it, not because the sex is getting sub par.

Because I see the ramifications of this shit spreading into all aspects of the relationship.

>loyal
You sound like an asshole, loyalty is so 2012.

I dont know if its fair to end it based solely on the fear of cheating, but its tough to judge a situation based off a few paragraphs of information, especially something as complicated as a long term relationship. But my knee jerk reaction is that I think you should end it from what ive read. Im going to bed but I wish you good luck OP.

Thank you and goodnight.
Much love

I'm so, sorry op. I think you know what needs to be done. Just do it and get it over with.

Get penis enlargement surgery ASAP.
It’s the only thing that might save your relationship

Nah the only thing that will save this relationship is a baby, then after she gives birth he needs to let his woman have sex with other guys every now and again while he watches the baby, to get her confidence back.

Answer this OP, would you fuck multiple women if she gave you permission? If yes, is she not enough?

Its not a question of you not being enough, but you can not fullfill a fetish of multiple people no matter how good you are on your own. even the most perfect person only has one hair color, one penis with its size an length, ect.

So it might not be that she thinks you are lacking but just something that you physically can not reciprocate on your own. Also its ok to not be comfortable with a gangbang.

Also no one has enough information on here to give you the best answer, you have to be open with her and talk about it more.

>this
Have a kid as soon as you can op.
That will fix most of your problems!

I'm at exactly 7 inches long and thick enough. I love my dick and always have been. Also, sorry to burst your bubble but there is no such thing as enlargement surgery, it's a myth.

Right because my function is nothing more than a liberal fucking provider.
Fuck you and the horse you rode in on.

>would you fuck multiple women if she gave you permission? If yes, is she not enough?
She's been enough since day 1, I never fucked or did anything with other women, i've literally fucking turned down flirts and made it clear to every female I met from day 1 that I have a gf whom I'm very loyal to. I wouldn't fuck multiple women even if she gave me permission because I am the kind of fixated retard that focuses on just ONE girl.

>you have to be open with her and talk about it more.
She's the kind to wash the conversation down to "Awwww don't worry it was just a joke at the time" She loves my ego and will try to protect it.

Also I love the rest of your post.
But what would YOU do in my position?

Sounds to me like you have the problem. Being a woman she could have that fantasy anytime she wants but she's afraid and asking for your help. Join a sex club and fulfill her dream

>But what would YOU do in my position?
I would ask her to be totally honest and tell her that I want the open truth and wont get mad at it, remind her that open communication is key in a relationship and tell her about my worries about her discreetness over the subject. Also its important to not show too much emotion when starting this kind of conversation because if she thinks you will get angry she will not be totally honest.

But my advice is not worth much since I have not been in this situation or anything close to it so take what I say with a grain of salt unless you think it would help

well aren’t you a horrible cunt.
No wonder your gf hates you and craves muscular, erect, massively thick, throbbing black cock.
Just give up now, it’s not just your looks or your sexual prowess which are awful, it’s the fact you are a horrible person to be around. Nothing can change that.
Get used to browsing pol and ranting about Jews.

If your gf isn’t old enough to have kids then just say so you dirty pedo.

She may have just said that to be funny cause she was embarrassed but i would be thinking the same as you.

I would probably look else where, but you could always figure out if she was joking or not by saying like you are gonna go with it and lets find guys on tinder or something. If she actually takes steps to do it then dump her ass.

All I see is you refusing to see that there are issues in your relationship that run much deeper than a dry vagina. Stop making excuses

Hey my dude I am going to hopefully throw some truth at you. Honestly man. Sounds like she didn't get her whore phase. most people have it in a way that they get to live out all their fantasies and do what they want with other people but if you've been together for years and she's 26 that means that she maybe didn't get to have as many sexual experiences that she wanted. I would be wary of continuing the relationship if this is something you are passionate about that there is monogamy in the relationship then it's in a lot of trouble. though it's a different experience this did happen to a buddy of mine and she ended up cheating on him I think this is due to the fact that we over fantasize are fantasies to the point where they're this epic taboo where it's just a fantasy. all the signs you presented from her are not very good signs for a relationship and you can love somebody and care about them and they can feel the same way but if they truly feel unsatisfied is it fair for both of you to stay together and feel unsatisfied and resentful or is it better for you guys to part ways peacefully and maybe find somebody who's more suited to your sexual needs and her sexual needs. I won't lie and say that the s*** won't hurt for a while but you'll get over it you'll move on and there's a good chance you'll be happier with someone else cuz you learned a lesson to ask these things right away and to make sure when you invest in somebody that you have goals that lineup especially crucial goals that determine if you want to stay in a relationship.

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