I have had an imaginary girlfriend for about 4 years now. I genuinely think much heartbreak and loneliness could be solved if people knew this was an alternative and took the idea more seriously. I'm willing to answer any questions you might have, no boundaries for the most part. And if you have an imaginary friend yourself, then do share your experiences.
Here are a few questions people usually ask, to get them out of the way:
>How old 24
>Are you a virgin No. However, for the sake of being transparent, I have never been in a "real" relationship.
>Is this schizophrenia / DID No. You don't actually lose track of reality by doing this, and part of the whole exercise, and the reason why this works, is because you need to see yourself separate from her in the first place. You wont start hallucinating or anything like that.
>Is this a tulpa She's an imaginary friend, lets leave it at that. I don't particularly like the tulpa community and I don't think there's a need to complicate things with silly words very few people know.
>What does she look like? She's short, thin, pink hair by the shoulders, wears shirts and jeans, green eyes, small nose, thin lips, itty bitty titties.
>How do you interact with her? Meditation. You basically practice feeling through an imaginary body and then use that to interact with her. Takes a while to get right, but it can be fun to practice, and the results can become mindblowing. You can also talk to her just casually through your day to day, I personally like to imagine her around me.
>What do others think of this? I've never told this to anyone, and I always suggest never doing that. I'm not dumb, and she isn't either.
>This is unhealthy and will make you recede into yourself Not necessarily. Imaginary friends are just that, friends, and good friends know that, no matter how cool it is to hang out with you, you also need to be getting out there and working on yoursed. Good friends, imaginary or not, will push you to be the best you can be.
>Are you actually serious right now? Dead serious.
Guide here (pastebin), pretty bare bones, but it should give you an idea of what exactly this is, feel free to ask shit about it. rQhmC4SA
We got a discord: gg/SFteDr The discord is about imaginary friends, not about me or her. We're not very many right now, but we hope to change that. I try to be active and answer questions, so feel free to pop in if you want to know more. I'll also open to private messages if you aren't comfortable with this kinda shit.
This is the first time back to b since 2008ish. And this is what I come back too. Never change user.
Itty bitty baby itty bitty boat
Brandon Hall
how long did the process take starting out? I tried to make a Tulpa years ago and failed.
Jaxson Wood
Looking at the pastebin methodology, it should be possible to create numerous "imaginary friends" assuming it's primarily a subconcious function. Have you tried making more than one or having multiple simultaneous creations?
Matthew Lopez
How many hours a day do you put into interacting with/maintaining the imaginary friend?
Benjamin Jenkins
Considering the whole process is very hands on with them from the start, it doesn't take much to feel like you actually have a friend. It did take me a while before it felt natural to talk to her and like she felt completely like her own thing (I'd say 4 months or so), but it was never a frustrating process, because I just was always talking and having fun with her.
I strongly advise you to just drop the whole tulpa thing, it won't get you anywhere.
So... you've basically created a fictional character and are continuously "writing" that character into your life?
Adam Reed
while creation might become easier as you gain experience, wouldn't maintenance become harder? e.g. dedicating enough time to each of them to keep them "alive", avoid them flowing over into each other
Josiah Wright
I don't really think about it, you don't really think about how many hours a day you're with your friends, do you?
No, that's not really what's going on. There's no writing involved, and it's not like I write about our interactions, I just do stuff with her and that's that.
>There's no writing involved, and it's not like I write about our interactions, I just do stuff with her and that's that. That's why I put "writing" in quotes, it's like you're doing the entire creative process for a fictional character, working out how their personality operates and how they respond to stuff, then building up an idea of how they'd act in a scenario (in your case, a real-life scenario), but then stopping short of committing it to paper, just enjoying the fantasy.
Adam Thompson
No, that's still not it. She just lives and learns like you or I do. You described the initial "creation" process pretty well, though.
It doesn't, actually. At the beginning, it's very tiring to interact with them, but over time it just really becomes second nature.
