>It's not necessarily that Anno hates Rei so much that he hates what Rei represents.
Objectively nonsense and completely backwards. When you hate someone like Anno does, you rewrite them into representing something bad. That's how all mudslinging worse. "Oy vey, Trump represents Hitler, don't vote for him, vote for me guys", or "Lissen gaise, Hillary is a crook and you don' wanna vote for her".
The weaker and more frail Anno makes Rei, the more fantasy-gf he makes, the less popular she gets, something that is measured objectively in polls and whatnot.
So that Rei represents any of what you suggested is completely false, and can't be proven by analyzing the show nor from any citation. In fact, Rei's character disproves it completely since e.g Asuka lives a life of escapism whilst Rei leads a life of self-improvement and relationship-building.
>And as much as you may hate it, it stays true to the heart of NGE, the sadistic, vehement, emotional, anti-escapist lecture, the denial of idealistic fantasy, the anti-anime. It's fine to hate it for what it is, but it should be acknowledged that it IS what it is.
Which is what we do - only fringe evageek otaku actually think what you just wrote. Non-otaku dismiss the movie wholesale for being otaku nonsense that requires hours of self-insertion and fanfiction writing to understand. 3.33 will always be a pure-otaku movie because it provides to the otaku building blocks for escapism, i.e shallow characters and settings they can exercise their moe-muscle on.
So, 3.33 is anything but an anti-escapist lecture, and much less true to NGE. Do you need to be reminded that 3.33 is completely different from NGE in narrative style and content? While NGE spent a large amount of time of ratifying and earning the developments of their characters, and earning the conclusion it had, 3.33 did not and simply focused on the de facto most popular yaoi pairing in NGE whilst showcasing Anno's jealousy of Rei. That is what 3.33 is.