Hey Cred Forumsros...
Just got results back from my doctor and found out I have a tumor in my lower spine.
Literally just found out and I have no idea how to tell this to my wife and family.
Where do I even begin? What do I do?
I am probably going to die.
That sucks user, it's best to tell your wife immediately to avoid drama.
Alternatively, as you said you're likely to die, you could leave them behind and go on the sickest trip of your life without guilt (for long at least, you're going to die).
All jokes aside, happy to talk to you if you need it.
>lower spine
Just amputate and replace everything with robotics
Thanks I'm just super scared dealing with this.
My wife and I recently got married after being together for 8 years and we were planning on doing so much together...
I guess I just have a fear of being abandoned right before my final hours.
If I had the money for that I would just go full cyborg and ascend myself physically.
Get them all together and tell them that your doctor found a tumor in your lower spine.
I think that it's a very normal reaction to be scared and sadly (especially nowadays) it's not even an unreasonable thought that you'll be abandoned. Realistically speaking it's more likely that this will happen when you keep this huge thing a secret from your wife. Assuming she's not a total feminazi cunt you should be able to talk about this.
You basically have two options concerning the 'doing so much together' part. Either you can sit around moping or you can make your way out of this world as amazing for you and your family as you can (i.e. an awesome trip or other things you had in mind for your family).
What did the doctor say about treatment options?
it could be worse OP, you could be black.
What kind of a tumor bro? Did you just get the radiology results or the pathomorphology results as well? If no pathomorphology results, you don't even know how dangerous it is yet. I have had practices at a neurosurgery ward for a period of time and spinal tumor removal was a thing, it's possible that it's still servicable so tell your family if you really care about them.
Yeah, I guess you're pretty much right.
If I sit around all sad I'll just become a terrifying rage spirit who torments the physical world.
Or I could keep my chin up and go out as a guiding light kind of spirit that prevents people I love from getting into car accidents and shit.
Treatment options? It's not necessarily the end, is it?
Surgery is what is recommended.
I don't mean to pry, but can you give us more details? Depending on the tumor it could be months, or it could be like 20+ years.
>trips
Dude KEK is clearly on your side. You're going to be totally fine. Keep your chin up and become that guiding light at the very least, unlike a lot of anons you actually have something to fight for (wife and kids).
Sit down with your wife and tell them about it, it'll be good to be able to share your thoughts with people close to you. Depending on the age of your kids you may want to hold off a little bit before you know more details.
Tell your family. You owe them that much. From there on, just do what you feel needs to be done. Treatment, one last hurrah, you deserve it.
OP what exactly did your doctor say because spinal tumors don't necessarily mean death. The most dangerous ones start from prostate or lung cancer which you'd know you had that already.
I know how you feel Cred Forumsro, I lost one of my socks this morning.
I'm sure they'll find out
Start cooking meth
bro just get it amputated and rock a wheelchair no big deal, pretty sure those ones dont spread easily.
What they are getting at is that its a vertebral column tumor.
And judging how my mental health is degrading (always dizzy, felt like I was losing my mind for a big because of the spinal cord compression) they are almost certain it has been there for a while but been growing over time.
...
Yeah that sounds kinda fun
>I am probably going to die.
Literally just tell her that. Work out how to tell the kids together.
Shit man, I haven't even finished med uni yet. Give me more time to develop cure for cancer before you die.
they doesnt love you anyway, naive fool
You're not going to die. Is the tumor canverous? I have a friend i live with who is on his 3rd right now and my mum right now has cancer so i know a bit about the subject.
1.Of course you need to tell them. No matter the consequences.
2. Get your surgery!
cancerous*
>I am probably going to die
Nope, you are going to get on this and beat it
Get a really fast motorcycle and have some fun. If you crash and die oh well.
If you go with the I'm proably gonna die attitude than you've already lost you need to positive fight the cancer for your family
smoke weed
If u come to Cred Forums for advice for something like that then you're dead inside already..... that or you realllllllllllllllllly are desperate. Break it to your wife first then talk to each other about how to tell the kids
How did you end up finding out anyway?
At some point everyone here will have to get their game face on, grit their teeth and do what needs to be done.
At this point its not a death sentence, you have options but you need to act while they are still viable. You can do this.
>be me
>have a chronic mild ache in my left nut
>starts getting inflamed
>feel nodules around my groin
>go to doc
>he feels around
>refers me to a specialist that afternoon
>specialist says I should bring my wife in and see the counsellor
>"why?"
>"being completely frank im of the opinion we should perform an orchiectomy. And we should work towards that goal as quickly as possible"
>"so you want me to waste my time talking with a fucking shrink?"
>"well..."
>"well when's the surgery?"
>"I think its best you talk through what you're feeling"
>"Im feeling like a guy who went to school for twelve years is telling me my nut is trying to kill me, and he's wasting my time wanting to talk about my feelings. Lets do this."
>"ok. Well I have a postponed operation that was scheduled for wednesday.." (this was Monday)
>"ok. I wont eat starting tuesday after breakfast right?"
>"thats correct."
>wife doesnt get back in from new york until wednesday noonish.
>go to surgery
>everything is fine
>call wife after she lands to come to the hospital
>shes pissed off that I didnt call her so she could worry needlessly
>test come back as cancerous lumps
>more tests the next week show no concern that it spread.
>to this day shes still upset I didnt "consult" her.
She gets pissed off when i say "yeah, like Id consult a marketing cunt to make a decision about a cancerous testical. Thatd be like consulting me, a knife maker, on how to calculate an orbital insertion.
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PS, sucks about you tumor OP. Have you seen Kindergarten Cop? Maybe it's not a tumor?
Good man. You're not a pet that needs its owners permission. I had the snip without consulting my missus, tough shit, they're my nuts.