Why does nothing make me happy anymore. nothing fills the void. tips on being happy?

idk what i’m suppressing i’m just upset. not even upset sometimes just mind numbingly neutral and it’s so tiresome

I've been there. A near-death experience completely fixed that. Life kicks ass now days
wouldrecommend /10

sorry i misread that as “who told you it’s okay to be happy”. i get that i shouldn’t be happy all the time but i’ve just been
upset for the past few weeks constantly.
laughing at jokes is so temporary it doesn’t even bring joy

maybe

Routine is what's wrong. Go do something out of your comfort zone, like going for a walk or jog at local park, it may be awkward at first but the first step is always the hardest with anything new. They say regular exercise helps with depression but I have yet to put myself out there as well. Good luck though

I wish I had an answer for you. I was filling the void with drugs, but now I have bad teeth and a failing heart. I spend most of my time watching YouTube and shitposting. I buy video games but don't play them, and I keep starting new hobbies but never continue them past a month. About once a year I'll have an epiphany and think I'm about to turn things around, but the feeling quickly fades. Usually near the end of the year I consider suicide, but as of yet have never mustered the courage to do it.

i’ll start taking walks. that sounds nice

I hate myself for being so awkward and weird.
Confronting it only made it worse.
>just push yourself and keep doing it
Motherfucker what do think I was doing?
>send attachments

drugs not the answer

I'm in the same boat as op just i've been on loads of different antidepressants which all did nothing but make things worse, and i saw a therapist for a while who eventually told me they couldnt help me and that it wasnt ethically ok for me to continue coming.

It really feels like life sucks, it never even started and its too late for it to start.

i don’t hate myself too much, just everything seems to suck. everything changed over the past few years. i barely see my dad at all anymore, i barely see my brother now that he got back from the marines. no one makes an effort to hang out with me. it’s all so pointless. the only thing making me remotely happy is my mom but even she works until 10-12 every night

Agreed, drugs just caused me to have more longterm health problems on top of the mind numbing depression.

where’s the restart button on this shitty game.

every night before bed I think to myself
"why am I even here anymore"
Not safe/unsafe, happy/sad none of that.
The reality that I don't have it in me to push myself anymore has set in and I can't live with it.
>just got to try (((my dude)))
motherfucker what do you think I was doing

Purpose. What that means is up to you. For some people it's work, for some people it's exercise, some people create stuff. For me it's family, and I can find fulfillment and happiness furthering the interests of my family. You just need to find what your purpose is, and don't be a fag and say you don't have one because you do, everyone does. People who say life is meaningless and without purpose are in the same place as you but they're too stupid/prideful to ask for help. You've already take a huge step by asking a bunch of retards how to get better. Find an interest, set a long term goal like 10 years down the line, and set smaller goals along the way that you can achieve on a day to day basis. Just whatever you do, don't sit and think, you're just going to get yourself even more depressed. Distract yourself and focus on fulfilling things. Over time you'll get better, I promise you that.

Make an effort to meet new people in new places, doing new things.
>don't believe a word they say to you
>don't attempt this in a place with a reputation for being open, accepting and friendly

yeah honestly, a restart would be good but just being able to turn it off for a while to come back on later would be nice too. maybe come back less burnt out on life entirely

dude fuck i understand u think that everything has a purpose but not in my mind. i’m just here man. i might find it eventually but i don’t have the energy to actively search for the purpose

Do a full dopamine reset. A vast majority of us are addicted to the phones and internet and don't know it. It desensitizes your reward system very much so

Immediate purpose was to improve social skills and reduce anxiety.
Mission failed.
>set goals
Motherfucker what to you think I was doing?

Fuck off with your 'promises'.

Yeah I know how you feel and I know what you're thinking. I've been there very recently. Nothing has purpose, there is no order to anything, etc. But I can tell you that if you just start doing something, anything, you'll slowly feel better. I'm assuming you haven't been this way for your entire life, so what did you used to do that you enjoyed? What do you do now? Work? School?

how do i do a dopamine reset

Ur in for a long rough life if u think "negative" emotions are bad

school. i wake up, take shower brush teeth etc. then i go to school (pretty much a huge blank as school isn’t difficult for me so i just autopilot through the day), come home play a video game i don’t enjoy for hours then sleep and repeat.

This is bullshit. Please stop

Look if you WANT to be a sad sack of shit then go ahead. But I'd imagine since you're here you want a way out. You're not special, you're not even very unique, you have a very common situation where you feel useless and the world sucks. There are very common solutions because this is a very common problem. If you want to be sad, you can be sad, if you want to get better, then you have to try.

Welcome to life. It's pretty much meaningless...

Me too, lurking.

Please enlighten us oh wise one.

You can be a cynical nihilist, but it's not a fun way of life, tried it, purpose is way more fun.

kill yourself

i’ll try both

you are taking everything for granted, thats why you do not value what you have. Therefore you feel like in a void. If you dont have anything, fill the void with aquiring it, if you have everything go somewhere where you dont have anything and realize how good and spoiled life is.

related:
youtube.com/watch?v=leHb2hdCLqo

>swiss guy goes to life alone for 300 days on some tonga island, finds out about life.

I said what I said before. If you fail, learn from it, set goals that are realistic. Slowly achieve them and reach higher goals. It's not hard to understand but it is hard to practice. If you fucked up your goals right away then set lower ones, just as long as you're doing SOMETHING it's better than nothing.

I don't feel useless and don't think the world sucks.
I lack the skills to interact with strangers and I hate myself for it. I don't want to be sad, I do want out. I here killing another evening until enough fam passes away that I can off myself with minimal guilt. My point is all you're saying is "you have to try".
>Motherfucker what do you think I was doing?

Ok so no job so you live with your parents? Not trying to insult just trying to understand your situation better.

and with filling the void with aquiring stuff, i mean materialistic and non-materialistic things alike

your favourite car, but maybe also an experienced you thought will be awesome to be had and you would love to do this before you die, even if it seems unrealistic. if the internet teached me one thing, you can do ANYTHING nowadays. Even be sad and lonely if tho you are literally in contact right now with hundres of people who are willing to socialize with you

Are you on probation for being black?

Do you want to lick eles asshole?

How do you become more comfortable in your own skin?

Ok then set goals retard. Start off small with "I'm going to say thank you when I get my coffee this morning." Start as easy as you need to.

A therapist told me that once, I kicked her in the vagoo.

In my experience, people are shit and feign friendship or compassion when you absolutely need it the most, are at rock bottom, just to laugh at you. They'll say exactly what you're saying, "you just have to try, it's that simple lol"
Just so they can amuse themselves watching you struggle.

>fuck that and fuck you

yes just my mom though

Depends. Do you think you're overweight, ugly, or what? The generic answer to that is just self improvement. If you work on yourself you'll like yourself more.

no i’m very skinny i weigh 110

I never said it was simple. It's not, it's complicated and very difficult. It is true that you have to try, though. You won't get better without trying.

suck a dick fag

I don't think you get it. I'm past that point (((my dude)))
Maybe this life has been a better experience for you, congrats.

I don't think you get it. I'm past that point (((my dude)))
Maybe this life has been a better experience for you, congrats.

I'd try using more energy then. When you go to bed without using any physical/mental energy you get anxious. Excess energy rolls over into depression and bullshit. Try learning something difficult, since school is so easy. Run once a day until you can't anymore befoee you go to bed. I don't know if that'll magically make you better tight away but I'd urge you to give it a shot.

You feel as if you have a void inside of you because you do, close your eyes and relax in the blissful black. Nothing fills the void because nothing is impossible.

And again,
>try try try
Motherfucker what do you think I was doing?

Kek you're past the point of trying? Life is all you have, if you don't want to make it better then why are you on this fucking thread? Go get shitfaced and die if that's really what you think, but I have a feeling you give at least a molecule of a shit about yourself.

OP, before you go to sleep, when laying in bed knowing in the next 10 minutes you will fall asleep, make a kind of check list of things that’ll make you happy or where in life you would like to be. Start small, make the list short. After the list then start visualizing them as if you are already there and or already have it.
Example: say you want more money. You will exercise your imagination and visualizing skills by picturing yourself spending hordes of money, picturing yourself happy and handing over money to the cashier. Picture yourself looking at your bank statement online and reading out loud how much you would like to have in the bank.
Three important part is capturing that feeling of already having “it”. Your mind will process your short term memory as you sleep and create your reality accordingly.
Once you truly believe “it” that “it” is now your reality, it’ll be like opportunities will come to you and life will be giving you, handing you, what you believe you already have.

You were trying, good. Don't stop because it didn't work right away. You have to KEEP trying. I'm sorry if talking to strangers isn't immediately successful for you, but it's not for most people. You have to worl your way up. My overall point is self improvement requires effort, it doesn't just happen randomly. If you want to get better at something you practice it. Say hello to three people tomorrow randomly. Record how it went. Next day do 5 people. This is what I'm talking about, set goals and move at a pace that is comfortable for you. You don't have to answer to anyone it's just you.

this sounds unhealthy, to base my happiness on something that is not real. i’m poor thought having money would make me happy

Ok well why don't you feel comfortable right now? If you can pin down that reason you can start working on it.

Again, I'm here wasting another night until enough fam passes that I can off myself with minimal guilt. I tried everything starting over a decade ago. Mixed results but one constant, shit on because socially awkward and weird.

So yeah, I guess I am past the point of trying. Don't have it in me to push myself that hard again.

Heroin

because there’s nothing to do and i have no one to hang out with all i fucking do is sit at home

I felt the same 15 years. I have to do the two things I hate the most to be happy.
1. Get up early
2. Fill my days/ week with things to do.
I'm also 7 months sober, but I had a serious problem. So that might not be relevant for you.

OP, I’m the guy who posted about making a check list of what would make you happy then visualizing it as if you already do have it right before you go to sleep.
You can test this in another way that is different in premise but proves reality is malleable to your truth.
Okay when dreaming and you are actively aware that you are dreaming, simply state out loud something you want to learn and your dream will start stimulating it as if you already know it.
Example: “I want to learn to skateboard” your dream will simulate that and you will skate like a god. Then after waking up you will learn that your skate boarding abilities have improved drastically.

I tried that approach. You don't understand how hard I pushed myself to introduce myself to new people in new places.
>KEEP trying
I'm done trying. Came here to see if anything new. Nope. Just try, try, try, set goals, try, try.
How do you not make a fool of yourself everytime you interact with people?

I haven't figured it out and don't really care too anymore.

Quit watching porn and playing vidya. Lose weight and go outside.

Yeah and that's fine, but you don't get to stop trying AND be depressed about it. Either work on yourself or accept the shitty self you apparently can't fix.

I feel you.

i’m 110 and 5’10. don’t think i need to lose weight but the porn thing yeah

i’ll try tonight

Diet
Exercise
Sunlight
Deep breathing
Meaningful encounters
Gacha Life videos

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>don't get to
shut the fuck up
Tried working on myself, can't accept shitty self.
>an hero

Ok. You want an answer that'll fix everything overnight. Doesn't exist. So your options are to find a way to work on it or give up and be a loser forever. I'm offering a way to improve, slowly, but surely. Literally just say hi to ONE person tomorrow. Not introduce yourself, not flirt, not ask how they are, just literally say hello. Start there, work up. Asking for "anything new" like basic social instinct is going to adapt to your complacency. Fuck off. Try or give up. Don't expect a handout.

Porn addiction is a real issue. Are you a consoomer too?

Then get off the thread, retard.

And I forgot. Don't compare your self to others. My friends own houses and got children and shit like that and i'm 40k in debt. I follow Jordan B Petersons advice: Compare yourself to you yesterday. Try 1% better today. Something like that.

The infinite hole in you will only grow. You need the Gospel

Well whatever floats your boat. I’m telling you how to be happy. Literally right now the universe decided to help you and give you a tip to succeed at life in the most surreal and easiest way ever.
Don’t ever think the universe doesn’t love you because it does.
But if you think this is just B.S. then here is something you can do right now. GO FAP THEN TAKE A SHOWER.

Do you even read my posts before replying?
Your "offering" is the same shit I've been doing for over 10 years.
>fuck off

Pray to Jesus that you can see again details!

And come in

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i’ll take ur advice and hope it helps

lol

Yes. Do all of these in one day and try to stay depressed.

10 years of sincere effort must mean you're actually retarded, then. Unless of course you're exaggerating out of self pity.

>actually retarded
probably
2009-present, baby

None of these things get to the root cause.

Thank you

Stay brainwashed kiddo

kys subhuman trash

Try to help someone else better their life. Selfless acts give meaning, not sure why but they put life in perspective in an amazing way

I use think this pussy way for a while and i tell you what it made me feel more shitty.

Seeing others being happy made me more angry. So I did the opposite and starting being being an asshole. Seeing others being mad or sad made me feel good.

Their pain was my pleasure.

I don't want to put more of that behavior into the world.

Highly recommend smoking some marijuana and playing RPGs like bualders gate, divinity 2, elder scrolls series, divinity or maybe some world of Warcraft. Beers help too. A combination of all three of these is enough to keep you occupied with a steady dopamine rush until you die. After two long term relationships crumbling over the past 9 years I’m ready to settle down as celibate at 31 years old and just do whatever I like until I die early.

humans are antifragile
success is relative
you may have gotten comfortable being able to live out your life doing a 9 to 5
or in college passing your classes remembering the good old days
but you are too comfortable while not having what you really desire
you have "settled" with a version of yourself
stop looking for happiness and start seeking out challenges
fear is like a compass, use it as a guide

I dont give a shit what YOU want

Thats the point.

If I fear snakes, should I seek them out?

Just drink till you can find something else to replace it

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Its impossible to tell what that void is coming from. Oftentimes, you need to make a new connection with someone who will help you and beforehand you need to keep yourself stable mentally and fiscally to get judged worthy. Best you can do is to live life and find something to give your life some kind of genuine form. Dont turn anything down if you get an opportunity either. Sometimes, a major change needs to happen somewhere as well.

Stop smoking weed. Stop jacking off. Hit the gym.

i don’t smoke

Think back to someone who cares about you and helped you. A friend, a family member, or a coworker or even a lover could work. Someone who saw you when you were vulnerable, low and banal and still saw something in you if only for a moment. Or you could think about an accident you saw or that occurred to you that could have killed you or ruined you but by grace of luck you made it through and lived and walked away. Find solace that you can make your life worth all of that and that maybe you might not deserve it then and there, you can grow into someone who does.

my mom cares about me and my dad and brother do too

Take that and be good to them and teach them to be good to you too if you need to and can. Dont worry about a million things beyond your control or engaging in a rat race, just be glad to help people and to pay back your debts where you can and stay strong so that the world doesn't sweep you away.

Unguilty your conscience, OP. And if it truly isn't guilty, do

Check'd

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Do something outside your comfort zone