I dont know if I’m in love or if I just really like her and I’m scared of hurting her.
I know I hurt her already but I think it could be a lot worse if she realizes it’s a catfish.
I think I have to find some reason to break up with her. That way she knows it was never a betrayal of trust, just one scenario like millions of others where an online relationship didn’t work out
Xavier White
plox delete op doesn't deserve to gaze upon those perfects nipples
My guy, You have so many issues here. It's becoming more and more clear you've ever touched a boob. Actually how old are you?
Get out there. Hit the gym. Shave. Shower. Get laid. You'll find yourself much more stable emotionally.
This is not us bullying you. This is actual honest to God advice. It's not a pseudo science. You will improve as a human. These are corner stones to your mental health.
Ghost her. Break up. Whatever you need. Be quick about it either way and block her.
Im 26. I have actually been with women in the past. Just a long time ago. I do have issues and this whole situation had brought them out of me even more. It’s becoming more and more apparent that I am inadequate
In a few weeks I will be broken up with her and I will start the healing/improvement part of my life
Levi Cruz
In a few weeks....
Brody Sanders
Little steps. Go out. Get air. Walk. Eat less. Talk to people in person as often as possible over voice chat.
You'll do well. Trauma from childhood can raise all sorts of hiccups as an adult. Be mindful about your well being, OP.
Jeremiah Miller
I already tried the just being friends thing the other day and it didn’t go well. I can’t spring that on her again. I need at least a week or a week and a half to come up with something else
Leo Cooper
Thank you so much. A little bit of positivity is nice to hear every so often.
I think what scares me most about losing this girl is losing somebody who is constantly telling me that she likes me or that I’m smart or great. It’s nice and I know it sounds pathetic but it’s become kind of necessary to me. This is bringing out a whole side of insecurity and vulnerability that I didn’t know existed anymore
... How old is this other person you're talking to OP?
Carson Sullivan
I originally used the Kik account as vehicle to go into chat groups and just shit post some political shit and anger some people for fun and I saw her in a group and she messaged me and we started talking and it just took off from there, flirting, talking all day, liking each other. It all happened so fast that I got wrapped up in all the sweetness and affection
Matthew Brown
She’s 22
Jordan Lopez
How do you know she isn't catfishing you?
Landon Bailey
She has sent me a lot of pictures l, a couple directly from her camera so I know she’s for real
Jose Clark
Best thing you could do is tell her you can't be with her anymore
Jordan Gonzalez
I think that’s the way it’s heading. Either that or I cheat or something
Jose Kelly
How bad did you catfish her? How much of an exaggeration from what you look like from the pictures you sent to her are? Also how long have you been talking to her for?
Kayden Lopez
The pics are an entirely different person. Taller, more in shape and more handsome.
The personality is a mixture of bullshit and real and there is no way my real one can be a substitute for the fake one
We’ve been talking since October I believe
Eli Green
Tell her you’re gay
Ian Torres
Dude you should tell her the truth no matter what you do she'll be hurt
Jaxson Perez
I think the truth will hurt more than s normal breakup. She even said earlier were not exclusive, she just doesn’t care to talk to other guys
Jason Ortiz
It might hurt her or she might actually love who you really are you never know you should give it a try or at least try to get her to find someone for her
"Hey, I've been catfishing you. I'm sorry, this is the real me. If you want nothing to do with me, I understand. I would love to keep talking to you though. I'm sorry for my past insecurities which made me do this but I'm ready to move on and be open with you. I hope you understand. I've never felt this way about anyone before.
There you go. There is at least a possible "win" in that scenario, worst case, you break up, like you wanted anyway. Who cares, just be honest.
Isaac Evans
Wrong faggot Oldest zoomers are 24 Kill yourself
Dylan Price
I can’t be honest. I just can’t. It will upset her more. I’d rather have no chance of redemption
Christian Ramirez
Oldest Zoomers are porn in 97 which would be 23
Christian Lopez
Born
Chase Hill
Well I think you've got 5 options here.
1. Ghost her, which will probably seriously hurt her and make her worry about what happened to you (assuming she genuinely cares about you) and start to doubt herself and self worth.
2. You lie about why you can't be with her anymore, whether you say there's another person, you can't take the distance anymore, you're actually gay, or whatever else makes you sleep at night. (This will still hurt her, but probably less than you just ghosting her.)
3. Try to play off that the person you catfished her with is actually you but you've gained weight/had an accident/ unsuccessful surgery. (Honestly this probably won't work but its still technically an option)
4. Make her break up with you, come up with a weird fetish, change your political views to be like pro-killing puppies; literally become a more terrible person so she can't justify staying with you and breaks it off on her end.
5. You man up and tell her the truth. It's not illegal to catfish someone, and assuming you didn't tell her all your personal details it's not like she can hunt you down and send the internet police after you even if it was. If she actually cares about you as a person and not your looks she might be able to look past how you look, especially if the reason you did it in the first place is because you have such an unhealthy idea about yourself. And if you strive to better yourself before doing so this is more possible. Granted there is a huge possibility that she is disgusted by your actions, and rightfully so, or already knows you're catfishing but couldn't prove it. This is also the healthiest option here and it'll probably be easier for both of you to move forward with your lives if the truth is out there. You won't have any unresolved guilt and she won't doubt herself as much if you do break it off
Regardless you've gotten yourself into a messy situation in which there isn't an easy answer, but I recommend you do what you think is RIGHT not easy
Ethan Sullivan
Nono, leave it.
Landon Perez
>are porn in that's when you know you've been browsing Cred Forums for far too long
Juan Watson
either ghost her or make a confession
Adrian Young
Fucking coomer. Can't get porn off the brain
Kevin Wood
The only options that i think will work here are 2 and 4.
Isaac Mitchell
Well 5 would work here, but from what I can gather, OP just won't do it because they're to afraid to do the right thing.
Caleb Torres
OP thinks one will hurt less than the other. He might be right but he’s definitely retarded
Blake Kelly
That's true too, I still think that being honest is the only chance OP has at being with her, but I think their guilt won't let them.
Caleb Perez
youre a bad person. break up without a reason block on everything. you deserve to be alone
Levi Carter
Damn.....I guess you're autistic
Jack Myers
He has no chance with her. He should minimize the damage and fade out of her life
Julian Martinez
shut the fuck up if you refuse to take advice. "oh i just cant hurt her" boo hoo shes 22 youre just a blip in her life. now leave her life you horrible person